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CHRISTIAN
SINGLES
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CHRISTIAN
DATING ADVICE
CHRISTIAN SINGLES : GUIDE TO
ENDING LONELINESS AND DEPRESSION Cont.
Chapter 15. Four Stages of Maturity You Need To Know
The first two stages of maturation are not likely to be practiced by
lonely or depressed people, who generally retreat from social
interaction. These are: demanding attention and manipulation. However,
understanding a child’s development through these stages can greatly
enhance the way we handle difficult encounters and lay the groundwork
for more constructive relationships in the workplace, home or elsewhere.
We all can benefit from examining immaturity, a great handicap in
meeting and keeping friends. It is human to err and slip into immature
behavior at times.. This information can also be of great value in
sizing up potential mates, Christian singles.
1. Demanding Attention: Infants have only one way to announce their
discomfort, whether it’s hunger, illness, over- tired or pesky gas
bubbles. They cry, sometimes emitting such blood curdling screams their
sleep-deprived parents frantically scramble to satisfy the need. While
this is perfectly normal for helpless infants, we’ve all known
demanding adults who exhibit this primitive behavior toward hapless
employees, waitresses, spouses or children. No, the uncivilized caveman
approach may bring begrudging acquiescence at the moment, but it is not
the way to win friends and influence people.
Oddly enough a person demanding attention may take a different
tactic, not harsh but soft and pleading. This is the person who has such
a strong need to be assured of their mate’s love and devotion that
they are a bottomless pit of need. No spouse can fill this need because
there is an overwhelming fear of rejection at the root of the problem.
This fear must be dealt with by confronting the problem and demanding
the spirit of fear to leave.Then stand on God’s promise, that He has
not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and a sound
mind!” Believe it with all your heart and repeat this positive
affirmation over and over until it takes root in your mind. Although
these old feelings of fear of rejection were painful, self-defeating and
debilitating, none the less they were comfortable in their familiarity.
Fear of rejection is fairly common but, like any harmful root cause, if
your faith in Christ is strong the spirit of fear must bow to the most
powerful force in the universe, Jesus Christ, who tells us, have no
fear. Aren’t we blessed beyond measure to have such a powerful and
loving Savior and friend?
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