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CHRISTIAN
SINGLES
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CHRISTIAN
DATING ADVICE
CHRISTIAN SINGLES : GUIDE TO
ENDING LONELINESS AND DEPRESSION Cont.
Chapter 12. Steps To Take Now
11. Practice making the first move to break the ice when meeting new
people. Don’t wait for others, they may be shy and lonely too.
12. If your loneliness stems from a desire for a mate, do not forsake
friends of your own gender. These friends still want to be part of your
life when you are searching for a mate and after you find him or her.
Some lonely singles think they only need a mate, not friends , and this
is short-sighted, because friends of all ages, backgrounds and interests
will help keep you occupied and out of your shell. Your future
sweetheart will be impressed that you enjoy the company of folks of all
ages and types, and good friends will sing your praises to that special
Christian man or woman. This is something he or she will take special
note of, because your friends have known you longer, and have some
history with you. They may drag out goofy pictures of you, or tell your
heartthrob some embarrassing things you’ve said or done, but just
laugh it off. Demonstrate that you have a healthy sense of humor. (Then
thump the culprits soundly when your sweetheart isn’t around!) Just
kidding.
13. Introspection: When you get pangs of envy, sadness or anger
(which magnify your loneliness) think back to identify what triggered
that negative emotion. This is the way to nip these self-defeating
thoughts in the bud. For example, did the feeling of jealousy come over
you when you saw a couple walking hand in hand? If so, rebuke it
immediately, and denounce self-pity, and covetousness, and ask the Lord
to forgive you for breaking the Tenth Commandment. (He will, of course.
Wanting what belongs to someone else and feeling jealous does great harm
to your self image, your self respect, and leaves you all the more
lonely. Think of jealousy as poison, because it poisons your heart.) Ask
the Lord to help you replace those negative feelings with a much
healthier reaction. Then, the next time you see a couple enjoying
themselves, speak a blessing on them and be glad for them. Your time is
coming. When you and your love are walking hand in hand, you won’t
have to be ashamed of envying others. This is a life-affirming principle
which you must master, or you will never get out of that rut. Jealousy
will drag you down, not uplift you. Kill it, once and for all.
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