CHRISTIAN SINGLE’S GUIDE TO PERSONALITY DISORDERS
WHICH CAUSE DEPRESSION FOR BOTH THE PERPETRATOR AND THEIR VICTIMS
Chapter 24. Narcissism: “I Love Me, I Love Me Not”
The First Signs Of A Malignant Narcissist
4. He may feign interest in how you feel or what interests you, but
sometimes you notice that far-away look, and if you are honest with
yourself you will see that he is bored with any subject that is not
about himself. However, the smallest compliment you give him will be
rewarded with his undivided attention. He thrives on being told how
intelligent, talented, good looking, popular, creative, etc., etc., he
is.
5. If you meet his family, watch how they interact, how respectful
he is to parents, how he gets along with siblings, if he has any
interest in grand parents, aunts, uncles, neighbors. Generally, his
siblings, cousins and others will have nothing to do with him, but
parents can’t give up their love for him despite the cruelty and
deception he has heaped upon them. And they have a vain hope that the
“right mate” will miraculously transform him, and maybe YOU are
the one. This is selfishness on their part because they are foisting
upon an innocent person the role of psychiatrist, and caretaker for
someone they could never control.
6. He always needs to be right. His opinions are not to be
questioned. He will be on guard, but if you see hints of anger in body
language, tightening of the jaw, narrowing of eyes, or other
mannerisms after you have disagreed with something he said, or if he
finds it necessary to denigrate your opinions, making you look
foolish, this is an indication of the fury boiling just under the
surface.
7. He will try to hide it, but his control freak side will
gradually reveal itself. He wants all your attention and will not want
to share you with anyone. If you spend a day with a friend, he will be
beside himself. He will have little interest in your friends, and will
try to keep you away from them.
