CHRISTIAN SINGLE’S GUIDE TO PERSONALITY DISORDERS
WHICH CAUSE DEPRESSION FOR BOTH THE PERPETRATOR AND THEIR VICTIMS
Chapter 24. Narcissism: “I Love Me, I Love Me Not”
you can look for, before the mask comes off, and the real person
is revealed to you ( I am using “he” to mean a male or female,
for simplification):
The First Signs Of A Malignant Narcissist
1. Lies often and exaggerates about his qualifications, education,
or his past. This may be hard to prove, unless you know his co-workers
or family, but look for discrepancies in what he tells you. Sometimes
narcissists will tell you one thing and moments later, say just the
reverse. If you bring up what they said before, they will deny it or
say you are mistaken, were not listening, or they may even slip up and
call you stupid! They can even believe a false accusation they just
made against you, and fly into a fit, even though they know they just
made it up!
2. Rarely reminisces about his childhood, past relationships, or
reveals his innermost thoughts. He’s sort of a blank, never
revealing much about himself, mysterious. After knowing him for a
month, you don’t really know him any better than when you first met.
He may have lapses in his memory, and will not recall many things from
his past, such as where he went to school, or where he lived at any
particular age. Since he’s the consummate liar, however, he may try
to fill in the blanks.
3. He may not like watching TV or movies, may not care for music
and probably isn’t very interested in the news, unless it affects
his life in some way. To win your favor, however, he will tolerate
these things. Peek in his direction to see if he is really interested
and involved. Ask him questions about important news stories or his
opinion about a well known person currently in the news. See if he is
aware of what’s going on around him.
