Loneliness doesn’t come to the
doctor, presenting itself; it comes as a more socially acceptable
issue, such as depression, anger or addiction. Some people are ashamed
to admit they are lonely, but they shouldn’t. They feel there must
be something unacceptable, unattractive or something wrong with them
or they would attract others to them. We will unmask the real culprit
later, and it won’t be physical appearance, social status, or
education, because we all know of people who are lacking in those
areas and still have plenty of love and friends in their lives. We
still need to understand the savage hold of the enemy of our souls
before we can be set free, so please take to heart these observations
so you will have all the ammunition you need to conquer fears,
misperceptions, old hurt from unkind people long ago, and present
feelings of hopelessness. Step by step you will see that we are
actually fighting a paper tiger whose main advantage is deception and
the ability to make you believe the worst, instead of believing in a
bright and happy future, available to you through faith in Christ and
His power to change things for your benefit.
Men deal with loneliness
differently than women. First, they don’t seem to bond with men as
easily or quickly as women do with each other. Hollywood idolizes the Lone Ranger
type of hero who is strong and self-reliant. Unless men are thrown
together ,as in war, where their lives are in their comrade’s hands,
they tend to have only superficial male relationships, although there
are many exceptions to this, and these are happy exceptions for the
individual man, for he will always have someone to turn to in times of
need. Those loners who don’t have close friendships with other guys
may have been raised in an environment that pitted them against other
males. Competition in the marketplace or career advancement may
contribute to the loner’s avoidance of close friends, but they do
seem to open up with women and share what is on their mind, especially
with older women with no agenda (in other words, women who have no
interest in dating them.) Men are coming out of their shells more now
and I’m happy for them. They are human, so it is a given, that they
too need to talk freely about unspoken fears, disappointment and
dreams with a trusted friend. Women, on the other hand, can share deep
emotions and talk for hours, although loneliness can inhibit this
natural inclination.
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