CHRISTIAN SINGLES
GUIDE TO ONLINE DATING ADVICE
Most dependent people suffer depression, feeling they
might not be able to rely on the kindness of others
forever, and their dependence does nothing for their
self-respect. In fact, their depression worsens, as they
gradually convince themselves that they cannot take care
of themselves. Many dependent people I know use or abuse
anti-depressants. This is dangerous, because many also are
addicted to alcohol and other drugs, and the interaction
can kill them, or drive the depression even deeper.
The dependent is much like the borderline in that she
does not want to be alone, and fears abandonment, Love
relationships are strained, as she clings helplessly to
her new beau, wanting him to “take care of her” as if
she were a child. In fact, in many ways, she is. Her
parents were overly protective, making her feel that she
was safe only with them, and that the world was waiting
outside, ready to attack or harm her. Christian singles,
note that this over-protectiveness demonstrates that
children need to realize while there are dangerous people
she should avoid, most people are kind hearted and are no
threat to her. A middle ground should be stressed, so that
the boy or girl doesn’t fear everyone.
There are several different types of dependent
personality disorder, and various causes, such as inherent
laziness, a passive approach to life, apathy, a “spoiled
brat” complex, and the “sponge” who makes a career
of living off the work and sweat of others, especially
family or spouse. There are those who expend more time
going from place to place, telling their hard luck story
to get free food, clothing, shelter etc., than they would
expend working, at least part time to cover their needs.
