CHRISTIAN SINGLES
GUIDE TO ONLINE DATING ADVICE
If the infant is blessed with a loving, nurturing
family, he should have no problem in transitioning from
demanding infant to a loving toddler, complete with wet
kisses for those closest to him.(Of course, I am assuming
the child is healthy and normal. If he has autism or
another tragic abnormality this transition will not be
easy.) So much depends on knowing that he will not be
abandoned or ignored when he is sick or hungry. An angry,
abusive parent can sow the seeds of narcissism and other
mental illnesses at this stage. An incompetent baby sitter
may neglect the infant, preferring to talk on the phone or
watch TV. The early, formative months of the infant’s
life are so important, a mother should try to put off
working as long as she is able, because damage done to the
infant’s sense of security begins very early.
As the child grows, begins walking and talking, parents
can make either of two mistakes; they can be overly
permissive or abusive. My two middle aged
female narcissists (whom I will refer to as “lab
specimens“, not out of disrespect, but to drive home the
point that they are not “normal” people. They have
terrorized their children, spouses, parents and others,
and should be studied to prevent other people suffering
from the same hellish fury.) The parents of one were
overly permissive and the other woman’s father was very
abusive. I will give them anonymous nicknames to hide
their identity: the pretty one will be named “Princess”
and the other woman will be called “Python.” Christian
singles, don’t cringe or get a case of the vapors over
nicknaming one a snake! I know you have tender, sweet
hearts. But truth be told, both are snakes in the grass to
their long list of victims! “Princess’s nickname fits
the way her doting father and mother brought her up. An
only child, her upper-middle class parents worshiped the
ground she walked on. She had everything a child could
want lavished upon her, and she knew no boundaries; she
could do anything to anyone and get away with it, because
Daddy could not bear to discipline her. When she ran
roughshod over neighborhood children, the beguiled parents
could find no fault in her. She always was beautiful, and
didn’t go through a gawky stage, like other girls. The
unknown part of her life, that which could have caused her
promiscuity, could have been anything from molestation to
early sexual activity. But many narcissists, male and
female, are promiscuous, perhaps because they need
constant attention and they absolutely crave the adoration
of someone who is head-over-heels in love with them.
